Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Marriage is love....

And love is:

not rude
not boastful
not prideful
never failing

Have you ever noticed that all that love is....well, it's things that don't come naturally to us. We have to work on these things. We have to decide to be and act on these things.

At my wedding, the preacher asked me and Jeff to love each other:

for better, for worse
for richer, for poorer
in sickness, and in health
foresaking all others
as long as we both shall live.

Honestly, when I took the vows to do that, I really didn't think we would ever have to address the negative aspects of these vows. And we have. We didn't feel like it. We didn't deserve it. We both had good reason to walk away. But we didn't.

Only with God. Love. I love you. I choose to love you whether you deserve it or not. whether you have money or debt. whether you are well or ill. whether you are faithful or not. As long as I'm alive, I love you. I don't feel like it. I choose it. I choose it, because God makes it possible.

That's the way my husband has loved me and I hope the way he would say I have loved him. We promised. And I'm so glad we stayed together. We are so happy today.

Hey, if you have time, please visit, to read about my mom. She has cancer and I've posted an update there. Pray for her please. Her name is Becky.




Joyful said...

I so totally agree Melissa. Love is a choice...especially when the going gets rough. I often think of Phil. 1:6, - He who began a good work, will be faithful to complete it. Everything always seems 'good' in the beginning (or we wouldn't have been marrying our spouse). God will be faithful to help us keep our promise to the end. A promise for 'better or for worse' and 'in sickness or in health'.

It's not always easy, but God is faithful.
Love ya,

JottinMama said...

Oh yes. Love IS a choice. Realizing this makes all the difference in my marriage.

Please know, I have already prayed for you and your Mother.


Tera said...

Melissa, Your Posts have been nothing short of encouraging to me! YES! Love is a CHOICE!!! My husband, who I love unconditionally, has recently decided to separate to try and save our family. I pray that he too knows love is a choice.

Our God is AMAZING and HE IS WORKING! I trust HIM to carry us through to Victory.

Faithfully His,